{"id":2158,"date":"2021-01-24T22:52:31","date_gmt":"2021-01-24T22:52:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sudlatnid.com\/wp\/?p=2158"},"modified":"2021-01-24T22:55:54","modified_gmt":"2021-01-24T22:55:54","slug":"how-to-talk-to-people-you-disagree-with","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sudlatnid.com\/?p=2158","title":{"rendered":"How to Talk to People You Disagree With"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/sudlatnid.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/600b270be8f92.png\" alt=\"People You Disagree With-blog(4).png\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In polarized times, it\u2019s tempting to retreat further into our echo chambers. Instead, consider how much we all have to gain by connecting with those who see things differently than we do. We\u2019ve brought together some of the best advice on how to have a productive conversation with someone you disagree with, as well as proven tips for how to change someone\u2019s mind, and the science behind how our brains process different methods of persuasion. <br data-highlightable=\"1\" \/><br data-highlightable=\"1\" \/>Whether you\u2019re trying to see eye to eye with a colleague, repair a relationship, or attempt to untangle a loved one\u2019s problematic beliefs, our guide will arm you with the techniques you need.<\/p>\n<article class=\"m176e2k4\">\n<article class=\"a1ne38gy\">\n<div>\n<div class=\"rph6o54\">\n<section class=\"ch4les4\">\n<h2 class=\"body title\" data-reactroot=\"\">Getting Started<\/h2>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2aee423ee.jpg\" alt=\"ted.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/ideas.ted.com\/how-to-listen-really-listen-to-someone-you-dont-agree-with\/\">How to Listen \u2014 Really Listen \u2014 to Someone You Don\u2019t Agree With<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Tania Israel <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">TED<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Listening may not be the most exciting part of conversation, but it\u2019s essential if you want to have a meaningful exchange with another person.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2af20ec52.png\" alt=\"fast co.png\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.fastcompany.com\/90451221\/how-to-find-common-ground-when-it-seems-impossible\">How to Find Common Ground When It Seems Impossible<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Gwen Moran <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Fast Company<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Sometimes, workplace conflict seems insurmountable. Here\u2019s how to get to a place of agreement.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2af602d5b.png\" alt=\"psychtoday.png\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/how-be-yourself\/201805\/how-stop-getting-defensive\">How to Stop Getting Defensive<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Ellen Hendriksen, Ph.D. <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Psychology Today<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Learn graceful ways to cope with feeling defensive.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<hr class=\"divider\" data-reactroot=\"\" \/>\n<h2 class=\"body title\" data-reactroot=\"\">Effecting Change<\/h2>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2afe236ad.png\" alt=\"forge.png\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/forge.medium.com\/how-to-change-a-mind-1774681b9369\">How to Change a Mind<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Eleanor Gordon-Smith <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Forge<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Missy spent more than five years getting her husband to leave a cult, but the breakthrough was simple.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2afed631a.jpg\" alt=\"behavioralscientist.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/behavioralscientist.org\/conversations-on-polarizing-topics-are-possible-if-youre-up-for-it-heres-how-to-start\">Conversations on Polarizing Topics Are Possible. If You\u2019re Up for It, Here\u2019s How to Start<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Caitlyn Finton <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Behavioral Scientist<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Although they make me feel like I\u2019m treading on thin ice, these difficult conversations are important to have.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b9729361.jpg\" alt=\"GettyImages-1088668550.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/getpocket.com\/explore\/item\/why-hostility-can-bring-people-closer-together\">Why Hostility Can Bring People Closer Together<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Francesca Gino <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Scientific American<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">\u201cHostile mediators&#8221; can be a surprisingly powerful tool in resolving conflict.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b0895f8c.jpg\" alt=\"hbr.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/hbr.org\/2020\/07\/how-to-actually-change-someones-mind\">How to (Actually) Change Someone\u2019s Mind<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Laura Huang and Ryan Yu <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Harvard Business Review<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Much of leadership boils down to turning adversaries into allies.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<hr class=\"divider\" data-reactroot=\"\" \/>\n<h2 class=\"body title\" data-reactroot=\"\">Broaching Politics<\/h2>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b0f0786b.png\" alt=\"teenvogue.png\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.teenvogue.com\/story\/how-talk-to-friend-different-political-views\">How to Talk to Friends With Different Political Views<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Sarah Levy <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Teen Vogue<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Here\u2019s some advice on how to go about it.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b11c6a75.png\" alt=\"huffpost.png\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/therapists-family-political-views_l_5f5a74bec5b62874bc1a1bc8\">How Therapists Talk To Their Family Members With Different Political Views<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Brittany Wong <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Huffington Post<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">How to avoid a big argument about politics with your loved ones.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b169f660.jpg\" alt=\"npr-keeping-it-civil.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.npr.org\/2019\/04\/12\/712277890\/keeping-it-civil-how-to-talk-politics-without-letting-things-turn-ugly\">Keeping It Civil: How To Talk Politics Without Letting Things Turn Ugly<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Caroline Kelly<\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\"> NPR<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Talking about controversial topics with your political opposite can feel like an exercise in futility. One tip, experts say, is to establish common ground as quickly as you can.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<hr class=\"divider\" data-reactroot=\"\" \/>\n<h2 class=\"body title\" data-reactroot=\"\">The Science of It All<\/h2>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b386028d.jpg\" alt=\"sci-amer-how-opinions-change.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/getpocket.com\/explore\/item\/how-political-opinions-change\">How Political Opinions Change<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Philip P\u00e4rnamets and Jay Van Bavel <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Scientific American<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">A clever experiment shows it&#8217;s surprisingly easy to change someone\u2019s political views, revealing how flexible we are.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b4925814.png\" alt=\"james clear.png\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/jamesclear.com\/why-facts-dont-change-minds\">Why Facts Don\u2019t Change Our Minds<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">James Clear<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Truth and accuracy are not the only things that matter to the human mind. Humans also seem to have a deep desire to belong.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b4dd231f.jpg\" alt=\"greater-good.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/can_empathy_bridge_political_divides\">Can Empathy Bridge Political Divides?<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Alex Shashkevich <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Greater Good<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Yes, says sociologist Robb Willer\u2014but the effort needs to be respectful and mutual.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<hr class=\"divider\" data-reactroot=\"\" \/>\n<h2 class=\"body title\" data-reactroot=\"\">Extreme Cases<\/h2>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b5bb0603.png\" alt=\"vox.png\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.vox.com\/2020\/1\/29\/21065620\/broockman-kalla-deep-canvassing\">How to Talk Someone Out of Bigotry<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Brian Resnick <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Vox<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">These scientists keep proving that reducing prejudice is possible. It\u2019s just not easy.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b5c9360a.jpg\" alt=\"npr-how-twitter.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.npr.org\/2019\/10\/10\/768894901\/how-twitter-helped-change-the-mind-of-a-westboro-baptist-church-member\">How Twitter Helped Change The Mind Of A Westboro Baptist Church Member [LISTEN]<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Terry Gross <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">NPR<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">\u201cI started to feel like I was becoming part of this community on Twitter. And that was the first time that I really felt ashamed of what I was doing.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card\" data-reactroot=\"\">\n<div class=\"article-card-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pocket-syndicated-images.s3.amazonaws.com\/600b2b6074d99.jpg\" alt=\"wired.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n<div class=\"article-card-aside\">\n<h3><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wired.com\/story\/we-need-to-talk-about-talking-about-qanon\/\">We Need to Talk About Talking About QAnon<\/a><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"article-card-author\">Whitney Phillips <\/span><span class=\"article-card-publisher\">Wired<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"article-card-excerpt\">Not talking about it is no longer an option, so we need to find a way to talk about it better.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/section>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/article>\n<\/article>\n<p>Source: <em><a href=\"https:\/\/getpocket.com\/explore\/item\/how-to-talk-to-people-you-disagree-with\">How to Talk to People You Disagree With<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In polarized times, it\u2019s tempting to retreat further into our echo chambers. 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